September 7th, 2008

20111112, Marilee

Luke Got His Player

I showed him how it worked and we listened for a while, and then twice I took it away and gave it back later in a different orientation and he had learned how to find the top, the button, and to make it louder. He does have trouble remembering that you have to push the button two seconds to turn it on or off (and it makes little up or down sounds when you do that). I logged it into his belongings, so we'll see how that goes. We talked about the storm and more about the presidential campaigns.

I left without calling Twin Lakes to order pork fried rice to pick up in about 15 minutes, but it only takes five minutes to wait. My fortune said: "You are busy but you are happy," which is pretty accurate.

I got email from the recipient of the second livelongnmarry necklace and she said lots of nice things about it, so that was very nice to read. I'm washing sheets and pillows and have run a batch of dishes through the dishwasher and when I finish here, I'll take them out, then put the birdfeeder in. Soaked seed tends to pass on bacteria quickly.

Then I'm going to at least sit in the recliner for a while. I hurt a lot, but I don't think I need a nap.
20111112, Marilee

The Bridge

This is a documentary about Golden Gate Bridge suicides. I have a friend whose minor son jumped last year and she has become more involved in pushing to put suicide barriers up than we expected. One of the articles I read mentioned this movie so I put it on my queueueue and popped it to the top.

I was surprised that there is no voice-over or intro or anything by the documentary maker. We hear from the families and friends of people who jumped, from a man who stopped a girl from jumping, and from a young man who jumped and survived. The first two-thirds of the movie mostly concentrated on people with mental illness other than depression, and that's not why most people jump. The families of these folks seemed rather clueless, especially one brother who insisted someone had pushed his sister off (and his other sister says it's because if their sister jumped, he believed she had sinned). One family took a "we can't keep him from this anymore" attitude, but they still didn't really seem to understand why he did it.

The friend of one of the jumpers who was depressed said that he was angry at the jumper because he hurt people by doing it. He had no clue that the guy jumped because he hurt so much. The friends of most of the other jumpers (in the last third) had been given clear indications that the person was in trouble and suicidal, but didn't act. Some of them said they didn't want to get involved. Some said it wasn't their place.

I think competent adults are allowed to kill themselves, but those of us who know people who are suicidal have an obligation to try and moderate that, even if it means they go to a mental hospital for a while. If attempts to help have been made, and the person is still suicidal, then you have to let them go.

This was a disquieting movie, not so much for the jumpers (we see people jump, but not hit the water), but for the people around them who could have helped and didn't. I recommend it. We should all find better ways to help people.