March 3rd, 2007

20111112, Marilee

Management Fraud

Before the first annual homeowner's meeting this year, we got letters saying that parking stickers would be given out at the meeting and if people weren't there, they could pick them up at management's office (in a different county, about 45 minutes away). I was still iced in on 2/20 so emailed management the next day asking if I could pick up my upstairs neighbor's (he's 86 and legally blind, but kept his car so his daughter and her family could use it when needed) sticker with mine when I could get out. I got an email saying Yes, and I should call first so our management guy would be there. I called and went Friday.

First, he gave me a proxy for the second meeting (they didn't meet quorum) which I filled out and signed, because the only important thing was a change in the our documents that requires board members to be current with their condo fees. He gave me my sticker & guest tag. Then I reminded him I was picking up Luke's too, and he said "Are you going to sign his proxy?" I said that would be illegal. Then he said I could take the proxy to Luke and he could mail it in and then management would send him the sticker in the mail. I told him that was illegal. He can't tie voting in the homeowner's meeting to the parking sticker. The only requirement for the parking stickers is that you live in the community and are up-to-date on your condo fees. So he relented and gave me Luke's sticker/tag and I agreed to bring a proxy back to Luke.

He also told me that we were close to getting the 66% required to change the documents, and we rarely get the 33% required for regular meetings so I asked him if this was because he was lying to people and requiring them to sign proxies before they got their parking stickers. He said "Not *lying*, exactly."

So on the one hand, the change is likely to pass, and I'm in favor of the change. On the other hand, he's been lying to people to get them to sign proxies. On the gripping hand, changing the documents like this is fraud. I'm going to call the police Monday and try to set up an appointment with the fraud group.

I wonder what else he's been lying about.
20111112, Marilee

Revelatory Dream

I'm going to be 52 next Saturday, you'd think I had my childhood worked out by now. I long ago figured out that the attention from my friends' parents when we were stationed in Virginia Beach (I was 15 & 16) was an answer to the abuse at home. One of my friends and his parents came all the way to Roanoke so I'd have someone in the audience at State Chorus (and I won the alto solo, so I was pleased to have someone tell me how well I did).

We were stationed at the Pentagon before that (I was 12-14) and there was an Air Force family at our church who had a girl my age and a boy my brother's age (we still keep in touch) plus two younger daughters. They treated us just like their own kids and took us on vacations with them and on weekend getaways and frequently said "why not just stay overnight?" It took the dream this morning for me to realize that this was *also* their way of pulling us away from the abuse.

In the dream, we were all the same ages as we were back then, but it was happening in the future. We were actually part of their family and were so happy about it that we never wanted to see our biological parents again. It was just life, but life in a good family.
20111112, Marilee

Layne's Legacy - Beading For A Cure

Edit to add better auction URL.

Layne's Legacy - Beading For A Cure -- -- is a charity that was started after a dear friend of ours died. Layne was a wonderful person who died of colorectal cancer due to misdiagnosis and we decided to make a charity where the money went to colorectal cancer research. We are a 501(c) group and an approved charity (Giving Works) on eBay. All our winnings except operating expenses (under $100/year) go directly to NCCRA. We gave $929.52 last year and expect to be able to give more this year. We accept donations year-round, but the main part of our work is a bead challenge.

For the bead challenge, everybody buys the same kit (put together by one of the beadstore owners on the board) and must follow the same rules to make a project. The projects get donated back to us and they are photographed and auctioned. We auction during the months of March, National Colorectal Cancer month, and April.

I'm the auctioner and I'll be putting each week's auctions up about 3pm ET on Sundays, starting 3/4. You can see the auctions at If you want to look at all the items beforehand, there's a gallery and slideshow here.

There's fabulous work here from some well-known bead artists as well a fantasy author. Please look and if you like what you see, bid!